I have become a mother 3 times since 2009 and each time was different. Each pregnancy was different, each birth was different and each baby was different. So was my level of readiness and support. I definitely knew more about parenthood with number 3 than with number 1, but I learned new things each time.
I always wondered why none of these things are discussed during pregnancy.
I love all of my children and cherish the memories of their births and their newborn days, but there are definite challenges during pregnancy and during the postpartum period that I learned from. I learned about my abilities and the strengths and weaknesses of myself.
When I was mom to my biggest, I had time for just her. No other children distracting me. I was also so unprepared for how demanding breastfeeding a newborn is. The breastfeeding class I took really didn't do a good job of conveying how much work breastfeeding would be. They had me believing that breastfeeding would come naturally and that I would lay in bed all day lovingly looking into my baby's eyes.
I also thought I knew it all because I started caring for other people's children at a young age, and had worked full time as a nanny for about a decade.
Then I became pregnant with my middle. I thought I knew it all. Biggest was 3 and I figured it would be easier. Well middle was a much more difficult birth and pregnancy and I was dealing with mourning the loss of my one on one time with my biggest. I had a planned homebirth for #2 and great support, but figured I could do most things myself. Well, thank goodness I encapsulated my placenta. My hormones were out of balance without my pills, and they gave me enough energy for both kids.
With my littlest (#3) I was worried about not having enough time to pay attention to all three of them and worried that my then 2 year old would be jealous and would be difficult. My pregnancy and birth with #3 were easier and I have to say was probably my easiest baby, even though I nursed through pregnancy, and tandem breastfed. It was probably a combination of experience, support, information and placenta pills.
Becoming a mom or parent is not easy. There are so many transitions and things to learn, but with the right support and education in advance and during-you can do it with ease!
I offer classes privately and over Zoom for Postpartum Readiness, and Beastfeeding. I also support families after their babies are born! Check out my class descriptions and don't hesitate to reach out to book a class.
Shawna is a mom of 3 and has been working with children and their parents since 1999. Just honest information to prepare you and provide you with love and support. Owner and operator of Bay Area Placenta Services since 2012