I have become a mother 3 times since 2009 and each time was different. Each pregnancy was different, each birth was different and each baby was different. So was my level of readiness and support. I definitely knew more about parenthood with number 3 than with number 1, but I learned new things each time.
I always wondered why none of these things are discussed during pregnancy.
I love all of my children and cherish the memories of their births and their newborn days, but there are definite challenges during pregnancy and during the postpartum period that I learned from. I learned about my abilities and the strengths and weaknesses of myself.
When I was mom to my biggest, I had time for just her. No other children distracting me. I was also so unprepared for how demanding breastfeeding a newborn is. The breastfeeding class I took really didn't do a good job of conveying how much work breastfeeding would be. They had me believing that breastfeeding would come naturally and that I would lay in bed all day lovingly looking into my baby's eyes.
I also thought I knew it all because I started caring for other people's children at a young age, and had worked full time as a nanny for about a decade.
Then I became pregnant with my middle. I thought I knew it all. Biggest was 3 and I figured it would be easier. Well middle was a much more difficult birth and pregnancy and I was dealing with mourning the loss of my one on one time with my biggest. I had a planned homebirth for #2 and great support, but figured I could do most things myself. Well, thank goodness I encapsulated my placenta. My hormones were out of balance without my pills, and they gave me enough energy for both kids.
With my littlest (#3) I was worried about not having enough time to pay attention to all three of them and worried that my then 2 year old would be jealous and would be difficult. My pregnancy and birth with #3 were easier and I have to say was probably my easiest baby, even though I nursed through pregnancy, and tandem breastfed. It was probably a combination of experience, support, information and placenta pills.
Becoming a mom or parent is not easy. There are so many transitions and things to learn, but with the right support and education in advance and during-you can do it with ease!
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